Let It Out

look at all these fucks i give about feelings
look at them
look at the fucks

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i don't even like the chat but man you guys are whiny about this, the chat is only as good as the members using it

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Too many special snowflakes in the chat to pull it off.

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Don't you guys remember that one time Al created a separate chat room because of this issue?

Man, those were some confusing days...

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Friendly Chat had potential to work if people didn't decide that Al was being homophobic.

It probably didn't help that nobody used it either.

The chat is small potatoes. Twitter is where it's at.
Unrelated note, follow me on Twitter: @Sigrev2

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I didn't realize that sharing my experiences in a reasonable manner counted as being whiny. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Chat is not fun for me anymore mostly because everyone I want to talk to is on other sites far more frequently than here.

Multiple times I've felt like I've been alienated from discussing anything that bugs me or problems I'm having in chat (if not just flat out rudely dismissed by some members). Maybe it's just because my personality just rubs against other people's personality the wrong way or maybe some people on there are just rude to begin with to anyone not close friends with them, but frankly I think chat is nothing more than a high school cafeteria filled with cliques who try and pretend to be friendly but realistically just want to talk shit about others as much as they can behind their backs, and I don't think this impression is ever gonna change any time soon.

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I'm not saying this to be mean, because I truly do mean this as helpful advice, but if you have to talk to someone about problems you may be having, it's always best to do that in person with someone that you actually know and have a true, personal connection with. Trying to do that with random people on some internet chat thing really isn't always the best way to go. As I said before and as you said in your post, a lot of people nowadays who frequent the internet and practically live their lives on it just take advantage of it to be completely stupid and undesirable.

That's pretty much why I stopped going on chat a lot tbh

Total side note: Is it bad that I don't have a personal connection with anybody in my life?

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I don't mean to judge you, but since you asked....yeah, that is pretty bad.

If it was absolute random strangers then sure I'd agree. But I've known these people on here for years and used to be (at least my impression anyways) friends with a lot more people who I thought I could trust more with stuff like that.

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When you put it that way, I see what you mean. That stuff happens in real life, too. Basically my point was that you can never go wrong with confiding with someone that you truly, personally know. Even if it's literally just one person, it's still good.

I've been getting that same feeling about some of the people that use the chat lately... But it's not the worst.

At one point, there was ANOTHER type of chat I used that was starting to give me headaches. There were about 10 people (including me), but 7 of them were acting like complete assmunches that refused to get along, and I kept getting shoved in the middle of every fight. I thought maybe if I brought these people onto here (except one, who deliberately followed me without my permission), it would sort of help. But that turned out to be a disaster... I didn't think of what would happen here because the drama was lowering my IQ and distracting me from doing productive things.

Either way, I think there are some people in this chat that need to loosen up.

The reason why I asked that is because whenever I try to get advice from others (especially "close friends"), they either don't know how to help, and or tell me to walk it off like a minor cut. I'm left with unanswered questions and negative thoughts.

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Well, I don't know if these little snide comments about the people complaining about the Friendly Chat are specifically referring to me, but since I was one of the most vocal critics of the way it was handled, I feel the need to respond.

I didn't disagree with the concept of a "Friendly Chat" if that meant a chat where there were stricter rules on what could be said and how people were treated than on the regular chat. In fact, I would be very supportive of that. Unfortunately, what happened was users including myself were not only preemptively banned from the chat, we were not even aware of its existence until someone outside the staff of the website told us about it.

When I found out its existence, I repeatedly sent messages to Alan via PMs and in the regular chat asking what I had done to deserve to be preemptively banned from the chat. I got no response and was repeatedly ignored until finally Alan relented and allowed me to access the friendly chat on a probationary basis. How was I expected to feel when I was banned for no reason from a chat that labeled itself as "friendly" when other members, including one who drew a picture of himself committing an act of violence against another member and posted it on this website, were allowed in without issue? I don't claim to be a perfect chat user (as no one on this website is), but I certainly think I've become friendlier and have always made strides to change my behavior in the chat when someone sincerely took issue with it.

To me it makes a lot more sense to start a "Friendly Chat" with every user allowed in at the beginning and then having users warned or banned from the chat when they violated the stricter rules. To have staff not only preemptively ban certain users from the chat but to attempt to hide the existence of the chat from those users in itself seems very "clique"-y to me and seems counterproductive to the supposed goal of the chat, which is why I took issue with it.

Well that's not good. That's not your fault, either. I do understand why that's frustrating for you because I've dealt with that many times throughout my 25 years. True friends are very hard to come by nowadays, thanks to society becoming increasingly selfish and rude. I'm no therapist, but when I noticed myself being encountered with that issue multiple times, I took a moment to stop and think. After having a moment, I realized that I needed to get to know myself more, trust myself more, and not always expect others to help or be the solution to whatever problem I may have. I'm not saying you should shut everybody out; still be open to others...however you have to really analyze people and determine whether they are someone worth being in your life, or if they are just another piece of undesirable shit. Always remind yourself to stand tall and strong, and demand respect from anyone who may be affiliated with you. Also, don't be discouraged if you don't have a certain amount of friends as someone else. What's more important and always will be more important, is knowing EXACTLY who you can count on, even if it may just be one individual.

I don't have a massive amount of friends, but I can pinpoint who my true ones are and know they feel the same way about me. On top of that, they all know that I am not someone to be fucked with and have the same "treat people the way you want to be treated" mentality, therefore I am content with the friendships I have.

Hopefully that all makes sense to you. Of course, anyone else who read this may take this as helpful advice as well. Admittedly I'm no therapist, but I've been through plenty of bullshit throughout my 25 years on this planet and there are many types of situations that I can understand and empathize with.