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Post #81 · Posted at 2016-06-08 06:14:19pm 7.8 years ago

Offline black4ever
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I'd hate to bump this but I'm starting to have problems in my school life.

First of, I'm in an art college, attending a course of Multimedia Arts, something I am really passionate about, but cannot find one field of it that I am really into. I'm enjoying the course so far, the multimedia subjects I'm learning are interesting, even if I struggle a bit. However, as time went on, I noticed that I am starting to become a insecure about my talent. Not that I mind it though, but I get a little intimidated about the experience my other class mates and friends have. It seemed like everyone had almost many years of experience while I only started having experience literally a year before I entered the Multimedia Arts course. It bothers me when I see everyone do so well in their projects and outputs when mine looks mediocre at best. I keep reminding myself that "I must do the best I could" and not compare myself, but I feel down when I have to live up to my school's expectations of bringing the "best" in students when I feel not as "best" as everyone else when I cannot lift myself up. It also makes me wonder if I am even worth it attending Multimedia Arts.

Second, I know this happens to almost everyone here, but I am having a big difficulty when it comes to making friends in college. I'm about to reach my junior year and I don't have a specific group of friends or even one friend that I go out with. I am very close to the people in my class but I feel I'm not as close as everyone else in the class. Which is why I spend most of my time by myself when I have breaks. I seem like a misfit. The closest I have to "real/best" friends are my two friends from high school who study in the same school as I am, but one has new friends and the other is like me, but stern and avoids me when we meet each other. It makes me lonely when I try finding people I can talk to and share experiences with, but they have friends to begin with, like since they first met in freshmen year or something. My "closest to" close friends from freshmen year have also moved to different sections without me knowing. I like being alone, but try my hardest to be like a friendly person when I don't have friends to begin with. It makes me come of as a misfit when I can't share my interests in BEMANI games to anyone who is actually interested in learning about it And the one person I really want to be with, my "other" high school friend, just doesn't have time for me when he has time with is other friends outside the school.

And here I am,, lonely, insecure, and desperate to find someone I can be close with besides being in this site.
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Post #82 · Posted at 2016-06-08 06:41:18pm 7.8 years ago

Offline Yamil
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Hi Black4ever!

College is a big transition that affect each of us, no matter who or how you are. I myself was impacted when I entered Med School in the same way as you described. I was seeing my classmates has if they were gifted with an inherence intelligence. Now that I’m in 3rd year, and I can assure you that those fears are something that we create our self as a mechanism of defense. Now, I can see that each of my classmate are differently and equal at the same time. How come? Each of us have a talent is some areas, and weakness in other. Some of the students that were in the Top of the Class during the first 2 years of medschool (which here in the EU is based in theory learning and written test), now have deficiency in the communication and treatment with real patients in our Rotations (3rd and 4th year of MedSchool / Practice Learning). And for my surprise, I’m doing great, contrary to my first two years. This is due to my ability to talk with patients, and be able to see the big picture of their illness and problems. I can assure that you don’t have to worry about your talents. Each of us have something unique in each area. If you love Multimedia, give it time that shortly, you will find something that will be characteristic of your talent. Don’t compare yourself with others, just do your best and don’t gave up. If you know that you are giving out the 120%, then there is nothing to be afraid. Always look and talk with your professor of how you can improve your work. That way, they can see your interest in the study.

As for friends in college, I just can recommend to have patience. In my first year of college, I did not find any close friend. But at the end of 2nd year, I did find 3 closest friend, in which after 6 years, we are still together, drinking and playing at least monthly. College is not equal to high school, that is a thing. I have friends in Med School who have told me that they never found a close friend in College (that is why some of them prefer Med School over College). But in the end, I can say to you that it’s not your fault. Is kind of luck if you found someone with similar taste in college. But remember, prioritize your study.

Good luck in your studies! Don’t gave up!Wink
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Post #83 · Posted at 2016-06-16 08:17:13am 7.7 years ago

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